Help

hello ,,,can any one help, i need advice , i recently meet a man who i think is amazing , he told me he from paris and learnt alot about him ,he younger than me but he was nice to me and my children and spent time together, anyway we left where we meet and since have been emailing most days , in this time he has told me he lied and that he lives in algeria and even his name he told me is wrong !! i shocked but i do feel something and i just dont know what to do , he says that he has 1 year left to studie and then wants to come be with me in england ,i just dont want to get hurt and look like a fool ,,help can anyone give any advice please!!!!!!!!!!

[Felicity]

I'm probably not going to give the most sensible information but... firstly, it gives you a year to get to know him better, and maybe you could visit him in Algeria before you make any big steps, because as far as I know, the only way he could come and be with you in the UK is if you married him. Are you British? Just i'm not completely sure what Britains stance is on letting spouses of EU residents who are not in the commonwealth is, and I think that may make it harder if you are not a UK citizen. Maybe he lied because he wasn't legally where ever you met him, so I wouldn't immediately say he was a bad person because of that.
I think maybe other posters think I am a bit naive with my post... but maybe the bottom line is, you both have a year to get to know each other, and you can see if things are still positive at the end of that... ok... maybe someone else needs to give better advice now

[Bent_Bladi]

this sounds like another "lets get married so u can get me xx citizenship" story.... be careful

thankyou for the advice , yes i am british and we meet on holiday , he was with his brothers and friends but spent alot of time withme and my two boys, i am glad he honest with me , i am worried as he is 24 and i am 32 and he has emailed me most days since i got back i will take your advive and see what happens , i did mention about coming to visit and he was excited although i would have to stay in a hotel and not with him ,,oh god would be grateful for anyone input and help but thankyou to the two who have left advice

[Felicity]

I understand why you would have to stay in a hotel, because it is not normal to allow unmarried couples to stay in the same house, so you shouldn't be put off by that, as long as you get to meet all his family (that was advice someone gave to another lady on the forum- that its important to get to know their family, and allows you to trust the person more).

Also, this may not be right of me to say, but you put your picture on your profile (not completely sure thats a good idea), but you look a young 32, so I personally wouldn't be so worried about the age gap, and perhaps in other circumstances it may be odd for a 24 yr old to fall for a 32 yr old, but not in this case.

really hope i haven't overstepped boundaries *hides under her duvet* its hard to judge a situation when you are going on about 8 lines of text :P

thankyou for that very nice for you to say , should i take my photo off profile ? yeah i will see if he does let me see his family ,he talks about them i asked what they think about him coming to stay with me and he says they think it best for him !!!! i know its hard to give advice from the short texts i have wrote but im grateful and confused ,i have a friend in uk thats says he only look for passport to england and another says go for it !! ,,,,only i can decided i know that just need all the advice i can get and grateful for yours thankyou