thankyou for the advice , yes i am british and we meet on holiday , he was with his brothers and friends but spent alot of time withme and my two boys, i am glad he honest with me , i am worried as he is 24 and i am 32 and he has emailed me most days since i got back i will take your advive and see what happens , i did mention about coming to visit and he was excited although i would have to stay in a hotel and not with him ,,oh god would be grateful for anyone input and help but thankyou to the two who have left advice