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salam,
I hope that time will heal the hurt that separation from loved ones has brought to your life. There is always life beyond problems, so have faith that you will smile again and hold those you love in your arms.
The circumstances of your daughter's departure are 'history' now, and history can be a burden - the trick is to know when to put it down.
It is possible that your son-in-law's refusal to allow your grandson out of Algeria (for now, as when the boy is older he may wish himself to travel the world), is based on a fear of legal action, perhaps, a fear that some emotional 'tug-of-war' could result in the loss of his son.
So, how to eliminate that fear? For now, it would not arise if you were the one making the journey to effect a reunion. If there has been hurt and mistrust in the past that can be replaced by a gradual building of trust. If it can be seen that your visit to Algeria is for no reason other than to rebuild the bonds of love with your daughter and grow new ones with your grandson, that threatens nobody. And perhaps in the process some mutual respect and understanding can grow between you and your son-in-law.
It really would be best if you had someone at the other end of your journey to meet you and shelter you. Without an address you would be likely to meet problems with the police. If you can convince your daughter that you wish to make no more than a visit of love, then she and her husband should feel able to help you.
With regard to practicalities, as your language skills are......deficient....the less time you are roaming around in Algeria on your own, the better. That is why I would be even more inclined to recommend the Marseille-Batna direct flight. You will probably find yourself beside some Algerians on your flight, and can learn a few new things on your journey.
In a situation where there have been hurts there comes a time to try to change interactions if bonds are to survive. You can do this. But it would be easier for you if you can ask for your daughter and son-in-law's help. Ask as a mother, your son-in-law should understand exactly why you wish to keep a line open.
A successful visit with no conflict or recriminations would be the beginning of a better relationship between you all, and would establish some trust and provide hope for other visits at other times.
I wish you and your family well.
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